girl in bed: yes...call me a slut
me internally: wtf?
me internally: ok stay calm
me internally: this is just a setup
me internally: she's just testing me
me internally: don't fucking do it
me: you slut
me internally: dammit
girl in bed: yes im gonna cum
me internally: raw
Anonymous said: I'm female, and had anal sex for the first time recently, and I actually orgasmed from it. Which surprised me as I've never actually cum from penetrative vaginal sex before! My question is, is it actually rare for women to cum from anal sex? Or is it just less talked about? Thanks!
Less talked about. I’m not sure if it’s rare.
A quick Google pointed me to this Marie Claire article, which I think will answer your questions:
The precis: We’re all having more sex, and more kinds of sex than ever before, and we’re getting sexually active at younger ages. But the “big story,” as Slate writer William Saletan puts it, is anal sex! In 1992, a similar survey found that 16 percent of women aged 18-24 had tried it. Now the number is more like 40 percent. And in 1992, the highest percentage of women in any age group who admitted to anal sex was 33 percent. Now it’s 46.
Saletan goes on to say: “The last time I looked at the anal sex data, I figured that most women who reported having done it meant they’d tried it just once. I was wrong. … One-third of these women say they’ve done it in the last month. Among all women surveyed, the number who reported anal sex in their most recent sexual encounter was three percent to four percent. That’s a lot of butt sex. And remember, this is what women are reporting. If anything, they’re probably understating the truth.”
So, he wonders, what’s the deal? Why are women so into it?
In the hopes of answering that question, he checks out the orgasm data and finds: “Among women who had vaginal sex in their last encounter, the percentage who said they reached orgasm was 65. Among those who received oral sex, it was 81. But among those who had anal sex, it was 94. Anal sex outscored cunnilingus.” [You can read the data for yourself if you don’t believe it: Table 5, Pages 357-8.]
“What could explain this?” Saletan asks. “Taboo thrill? Clitoral migration? Some new kind of vegetable oil?”
Giving the data another go, he finds that 86 percent of women who had anal also had vaginal sex, 72 percent also received oral sex, and 31 percent also had partnered masturbation. As he puts it, “The more sex acts a woman engaged in during the encounter, the more likely she was to report orgasm. These other activities are what gave the women their orgasms. The anal sex just came along for the ride. … Women who were getting what they wanted were more likely to indulge their partners’ wishes. It wasn’t the anal sex that caused the orgasms. It was the orgasms that caused the anal sex.”
Basically - if you’re the kind of person who’s sexually adventurous, you’ll do more exploring and start having more orgasms. It’s your attitude towards sex that leads to your O’s - not what you’re actually, physically doing. I bet that the more you explore, the easier you’ll cum - and you’ll start cumming more during vaginal sex, too.
(I didn’t actually read the scientific study so forgive me if I got anything wrong!)
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Anonymous said: I have a submissive friend with whom i flirted once or twice but nothing more. I do not think she is that into me. What can i do to try to maybe get her more interested? She likes strong flirting and to be restrained even when kissing. We spend a lot of nights together just the two of us but she told me she doesn't see me in that way (although she admits some times she gets carried away) and that really holds me back in making a move. I need a more subtle approach?
If she’s not interested in you personally, there’s not much you can do. The best thing to do if someone’s not interested is to move on. However, if she’s interested in you but something else is holding her back then perhaps just talking to her and asking what it is will do the trick. I’ve always preferred the straight approach. You make it seem as if she is interested in the sex and feelings, but not you specifically. If that is the case, let her go and find the person meant for you.
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